WHY SHOULD WE MARRIED? IS IT IMPORTANT TO DO WEDDING CEREMONY ?

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time. Typically, it is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged or sanctioned. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing sexual activity. A marriage ceremony is called a wedding, while a private marriage is sometimes called an elopement. in recent years, there has been a decline in marriage rates in many parts of the world. This decline has been attributed to a variety of factors, including changes in social attitudes, increased access to education and opportunities for women, and economic factors. A young man at a marriage conference where Erin and I were speaking once asked me, “Why get married? I love my girlfriend and I’m committed to her. I do all of the things that you’re encouraging us to do to have a strong and healthy relationship. Why do we need a couple of expensive rings and a piece of paper to prove our love?” It’s a good question. And to answer it, we need to start with the apostle Paul. When Paul wrote to the Ephesians, he had a lot to say about marriage. “ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This mystery is profound,” he wrote in Ephesians 5:31-32.  And he’s right. The commitment we make when we enter into a marriage — when we become “one flesh”— is indeed profound and mysterious. 

Why Marry?

There are many different reasons why people choose to marry. Some common reasons include the following:

1. 1. Love: For many people, the primary reason for marrying is love. They have fallen in love with someone and want to spend the rest of their lives with that person.
   2. Companionship and security: Marriage can provide a sense of companionship and support. When two people marry, they become a team and can support each other through life’s ups and downs. Thus, marriage can provide a sense of security, both emotional and financial. It can offer stability and a sense of belonging.
   3. Children: Many people choose to marry because they want to have children and raise a family. Marriage can provide a stable environment for raising children.
   4. Social norms: In many cultures, marriage is seen as a societal norm and a way to establish oneself as an adult. Some people may marry for this reason, even if they are not in love with their partner.
   5. Religion: For some people, marriage is an important religious rite and a way to fulfill their spiritual beliefs.Marriage is a personal and social commitment. While not everyone must get married, here are some reasons why many people choose to:

1. Emotional and Social Partnership ;Marriage offers companionship, support, and love.It provides someone to share life’s joys and struggles with.

2. Legal and Financial Benefits ;Married couples often get tax breaks, inheritance rights, medical decision rights, and easier access to joint property or health insurance.

3. Family Foundation :Marriage provides a stable environment to raise children, with shared responsibilities and legal protections.Many societies and cultures value marriage as the ideal foundation for family life.

4.Commitment and Growth :Marriage can be a space for personal growth, learning forgiveness, patience, and teamwork. It signifies a long-term commitment, which can build trust and security.

5. Cultural or Religious Importance :In many traditions, marriage is a spiritual or cultural milestone.Some faiths consider marriage a sacred covenant or duty: A wedding ceremony is not required to be legally married (in most places), but it can be meaningful for several reasons:

 Reasons It Can Be Important:

• • Public Commitment :A wedding lets you declare your love and vows in front of family and friends.It strengthens the social bond around your relationship.

• • Cultural/Religious Identity:For many, weddings reflect tradition, faith, and identity.Families often feel included and honored through the ceremony.

• • Memory and Symbolism :Weddings create lasting memories.

• • The ceremony is symbolic—a moment that marks a new beginning.

• • Celebration of Love :Love is worth celebrating! A wedding lets you share joy with your loved ones.

Why Not Marry?

While marriage can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience for many people, it is not right for everyone.A certain fear begins to rise within the mind, a fear of being alone, of never finding their “soul mate.” With this anxiety, fear, insecurity, they begin an almost desperate search for someone, and when a person comes along, who shows interest in them, even if not possessing the qualities they know are necessary, (like a common faith), they compromise because they don’t want to end up the “old maid.” There are several reasons why marriage might not be a good idea for some individuals:

1. 1. Personal freedom: Marriage requires a significant commitment of time, energy, and resources. It can also involve giving up some personal freedom and autonomy. For some people, the sacrifices required by marriage may outweigh the benefits.
   2. Compatibility: For a marriage to be successful, it is important for the two individuals to be compatible. If two people have very different values, goals, or interests, it can be difficult for them to build a strong and lasting relationship.
   3. Relationship problems: Every relationship has its challenges, and marriage is no exception. If a couple is already having problems in their relationship, such as communication issues or trust issues, getting married may not solve those problems and could even make them worse.
   4. Societal expectations: In some cases, individuals may feel pressure to get married from their family, friends, or society at large. If they are not ready for marriage or do not want to get married, this pressure can be stressful and difficult to deal with.
   5. Financial considerations: Marriage can be expensive, especially if a couple decides to have a big wedding or move into a new home together. For some individuals, the cost of marriage may not be worth it, especially if they are happy with their current financial situation.It is important for individuals to carefully consider their own needs, desires, and circumstances before deciding whether marriage is the right choice for them.Because lifelong, total commitment solves the game theory problems that lead to a tragedy of the commons, distrust, and resentment, which in turn lead to broken families.is it true ?On 7/06/2025  I meet with young people , confidence and smart young , he says I want to be married, I am no long live alone and I know that  I have a beautiful fiance.

Testimonies

1. 1. In my humble opinion….No, not at all. In this day and age there are many, many people preferring the single life. Maybe it’s another form of stress (sometimes) that people do not need. Women are very much independent over the last 3 decades, or more. They seem to concentrate on their career or business than concentrate on marriage and having a family.Hey, there is nothing wrong with that.Nobody rules our lives, we can make our own decisions.I would not worry too much about it, just enjoy your life and what you have.Just because many of your friends, brothers or sisters etc. are married, that does not make you out to be an odd ball.Maybe you haven’t met the right partner yet.Hey, that could happen today in McDonalds or Starbucks, the mall, the gas station, you never know. :-)I wish you all the best, good luck in the future.Cheers.By Steven O’Mally
   2.  Look around, what do you observe? What do the stats say? Have you stopped to wonder how many marriages lead to many broken lives including all the children that came from those marriages? Marriage does not determine your failure or success in life. Your relationship with you is what determines your success. Get married to you first. Love and value you and when you are ready to share what you have cultivated within, then you stand a much better chance of finding the perfect person for you. That person then will simply compliment your success and joy in life, not create it for you. By Mandy Wessen
   3. Plenty of people on this planet are perfectly happy as single adults. It is NOT necessary to be married in order to be happy. The fact that there are so many divorces is proof that marriage can cause a lot of unhappiness. Focus on developing yourself as a person. Develop a career. Find interesting hobbies and pastimes that will make you more well-rounded and interesting.By Darhon Rees-Rohrbacher
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5. It mainly depends on how you see your life. If you look at it from majority of the people’s perspective, no marriage or a broken marriage is a failure. Because of the societal laws, you will be viewed as a kind of outlaw if you aren’t married. However, if you are a kind of person who doesn’t give a damn to what others think about you, then it is not a failure. Focus on your other goals and fulfill your dreams. You just have to be mentally very very tough to deal with the society. Because, your colleagues, friends, acquaintances, co-travelers, neighbors, etc. all of them bring out your marriage topic. Be prepared to face them. Some people even find pleasure in highlighting that you are still a single and try to demoralize you, but don’t fall in their trap.

6. It is a wonderful thing to have a companion with whom you can share your feelings and also start your own family. But, if it doesn’t happen for whatever reasons, that’s not an end of the world. Below are some of the unfortunate scenarios where one wouldn’t want to land on-

• • Being born as orphaned

• • Born in a poor family without even able to get the basic needs and education

• • Born without siblings

• • Born handicapped, etc.

Even though it is your choice to live without a companion, may be it was how you were destined to live. Similar to one of the above scenarios life doesn’t stop just because you hit a roadblock. You need to move on. At one point of time vast majority of the people become companion-less during their old age. It just happened early in your case and you are well prepared to face loneliness during your old age.By Chanakya Rao

7.He will get depressed and tend to rape the women around him.” Lol! Nothing happens. But what I have written is something assumed by society. Of course, it is false. There have been many men in history who decided to live single forever. They have been philanthropists or social activists. They wanted to dedicate their lives to the welfare of society, country, wildlife etc. They felt marriage would be an obstacle to their dreams.Hence, they remained bachelors.These men are more composed and determined. In many cases, they are successful too as they dedicate all their time to their goals. They don’t have families and children, so they are far away from the daily hustle-bustle. They possess a different kind of mental peace which makes them more productive at work.I have known some men who preferred to be unmarried because they didn’t want to live under any obligations. They liked their freedom of leading life however they wanted. Such men don’t get trapped by the feelings of insecurities like they might feel lonely at some point in time or who will take care of them in old age. They are very confident in their decisions. Their confidence fascinates me as they know very well what to do in life and how to deal with worldly affairs. P.S. — This post doesn’t encourage the readers to not go for marriage. Everything has its own charm. Thank you for reading. Stay Calm! Anshu. By  Anshu Bharti

8. I often get into downward spirals about the fate and future of my dwindling family line. At age 50, while having never been married or having any offspring, I don’t foresee my family line making it a great many years past the 1st half of the 21st Century, but who knows? My brother’s wife got dealt the shitty hand of not being able to have children, so the only way my line will continue is if I finally find mutual attraction with someone, which hasn’t happened in a good while.I don’t consider myself a failure, because I haven’t found anyone to marry and wouldn’t if I never do. I have a great job and exciting hobbies to keep me busy. If me and my family line fade into oblivion, so be it. The world today doesn’t seem like the greatest place to raise children, anyway. by Ty Cohen

9.The short answer is NO. But you may feel like you have failed or have missed out on having a better life if, when you are young, you set your main goal as finding a spouse and having children. Some people spend their whole lives pining for something that they think they want, but they probably wouldn’t be so happy if they got it. Many of my friends married young, but it ended in divorce and a lot of miserable years in the marriage. It also wrecked the lives of their children. I have relatives who have married multiple times and still haven’t found their happiness. Many of the men in my generation want to be the boss of the household and do not treat their wives as equal partners. I could not be married to a guy like that. For now, I am much happier being single…By Joel Gardner

10 I am OLD. I know plenty of women my age who regret having gotten married. Most of those women divorced their husbands after their kids had left the nest, and I do not know one who would change their minds. Single women have friends, relatives, and can nurture and sponsor young people in all sorts of pursuits. They can have rich lives. You do not need to get married to have a good life.My sister had two significant relationships, but neither lasted for very long. (One left her. One died.) She seems happy with her single life. She worked hard, made enough money so she is comfortable and lives in a spot she loves. She has friends. She goes on nature walks. She fills her day with this and that. She may not be ecstatically happy, but I think she is content.By Polly Fukuhara

11. What will happen to a man who never gets married?Regardless of gender, nothing happens. They’ll constantly lead a bachelor lifestyle.

1. They will only show themselves all the love and care they can muster.

2. They have access to all of their savings for personal use.

3. They have the ability to travel at any time and anywhere.

4. They are under no obligation to go home early.

5. Weekend activities are optional.

6. No one is allowed to alter their day’s schedule.

7. They don’t need to save money for anyone because life is affordable for them.

While it is a lot of freedom and the list goes on.

They can nevertheless have fulfilling lives. Just because someone marries and has kids doesn’t necessarily indicate they are content. In the same way, just because someone is single or doesn’t have kids doesn’t imply they should be depressed.

The only thing that could harm them is if individuals continue to make fun of and mistreat them.

I’m hoping that this will change as the generations change.For Most people getting married is a joyous thing, and they say it’s nice and they’re living happy lives. That’s great. But doesn’t mean who didn’t get married will have to be unhappy.By Himabindu Veerabomma

Everyones got their onw reasons. All that matters is that it makes sense to the ppl who wish to do so

Terrible Reasons to Get Married (And 4 Really Good Ones)

Years ago, I thought of myself as someone who would probably never get married. I thought I was just “wired” for relationships that were fun but ultimately short-lived. I dated a lot, slept around, and always had an exit strategy.

Fast forward to today and as a happily married man, I’m honestly surprised by how easy it was for me to transition to a committed, life-long relationship. In fact, it feels damn good!

The truth is, while I did a lot of work on myself, a lot of it was just looking for a good partner.

I get hundreds of emails each year from people struggling in their relationships. And a lot of those people are either engaged or thinking about getting married. I often want to wave a giant neon flag at them shouting, “Don’t do it!” because getting married for the wrong reasons can have dire consequences—not just emotionally, but financially, as well.

After working with dozens of couples on this issue, I’ve put together two checklists below that summarize everything. The first checklist is the BAD reasons people get married. The second checklist outlines the GOOD reasons to get married. Check it out.

Terrible Reasons to Get Married

Most of these horrible reasons to get married will probably seem obvious and maybe even a little ridiculous. But for a lot of us, it’s really hard to take an objective look at our own motivations and see them for what they really are.

Sometimes, your real intentions are hidden a few layers deep and you just need someone to lovingly shake them to the surface for you.

Terrible Reason to Get Married

1. To Solve Your Relationship Problems

For some reason, a lot of people seem to think that something magical happens when you get married and all the fights and toxic cycles of behavior disappear.

This is tragically misguided.

Committing to someone by getting married amplifies all the facets of your relationship. So if you genuinely love and respect one another, that love and respect can grow and evolve in a married couple.

But the same is true for the problems you have in your relationship. If you’re bad at communicating in your relationship, miscommunications will only get worse in your marriage. If you don’t have respect for one another, you won’t gain it by getting married. You’ll probably lose it even more.

Basically, when you get married, things can get even better if they’re already good, but they only get worse if they’re already bad.

Terrible Reason to Get Married

2. Because You’re Afraid of Being Alone

Being alone can really suck.

What sucks even more, though, is marrying the next person who comes along simply because you’re tired of being alone—and then they turn out to be terrible for you.

You’ve probably heard this before. But no one is going to be happy being with you if you can’t be happy being by yourself.

I’m betting nobody ever told you how to go about doing that though. After all, it seems like a catch-22: you need to be happy by yourself before you can make someone else happy, but you’re not happy because you don’t have someone to make you happy.

The problem is the way you’re judging and valuing yourself. You’re valuing others’ opinions of you more than you’re valuing your own opinion of yourself. You think your value as a person is determined by who you’re with. Just think about how fucked up that is for a second.

Develop yourself into who you want to be first. Get healthy. Leave your dead-end job and get serious about your career. Get your finances in order. Then find someone who is excited to be with you because you kick so much ass already.

Terrible Reason to Get Married

3.  To Prove Something

Maybe your crazy aunt keeps telling you about how “the clock is ticking” and you’re not getting any younger. Or your father thinks you need to “grow up already.” Or maybe your parents got divorced and you’re determined to show the world that you’re better than them. Or all your friends are married now and you want to show them you’re not just the third or fifth or eleventh wheel all the time.

Sometimes it’s a little more subtle but just as fucked up. Like, some people see marriage as a status symbol, so they get married thinking they’ll parade around town with their spouse and people will bow in their presence like they just conquered Westeros or something.

Whatever it is, getting married to prove something to someone—or yourself—is a god awful reason to do it.

“See, look how happy we are together. See? SEE?”

Terrible Reason to Get Married #4: Because It’s Practical

Depending on which country you live in, a legal marriage can come with many practical benefits. You may be tempted to marry to qualify for tax breaks, receive your spouse’s social security benefits, be able to adopt, get a spouse visa, etc.

There’s nothing wrong with receiving these perks, but if they’re the only reason you’re marrying someone—i.e. committing to them until death do you part—then something’s not quite right.

The fact is that a marriage isn’t going to work unless both people are in it for each other and no one else. The state may treat you differently, but outside maybe your parents, the world genuinely doesn’t care if you get married. Billions of people have done it. You don’t get a gold star and extra warm cookies on the plane just because you’re married. You also don’t get to rub it in anyone’s face for more than a few months, tops. And then what?

I’ll tell you what: then you’re stuck in a marriage trying to figure out if it was worth it after all.

So if any of these terrible reasons to get married apply to your situation, well first, don’t get married. Second, work on your relationship skills. Learn about healthy and toxic behaviors in relationships. Familiarize yourself with how emotional needs work so you can better get yours met and meet the needs of others. It takes a lot of time, but it will save you a lot of pain and maybe a divorce or three down the road.

Marriage can be important for emotional, legal, family, cultural, or spiritual reasons. A wedding ceremony can add meaning, but it’s not mandatory—what matters most is the commitment between the two peopleOn the other hand, if you can take an honest look at your relationship and say that none of these terrible reasons to get married apply to your situation, then great.

 IS IT IMPORTANT TO DO WEDDING CEREMONY ?

The wedding ceremony is one of the major, if not the top highlight of a wedding. It brings two people together in the presence of God, family, and friends. This is why it’s very important to carefully plan your wedding ceremony. If you and your partner are undecided about having a wedding ceremony, here are good insights to consider.

A wedding is a ceremony in which two people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnicities, races, religions, denominations, countries, social classes, and sexual orientations. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of marriage vows by a couple; a presentation of a gift (e.g., an offering, rings, a symbolic item, flowers, money, or a dress); and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure or celebrant. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception. Music, poetry, prayers, or readings from religious texts or literature are also commonly incorporated into the ceremony, as well as superstitious customs.

1. It celebrates the sanctity of marriage.
If you are born from a religious family, we are pretty sure that you are very well aware of the sacredness of marriage. Many couples further celebrate the beginning of their marriage by conducting a sacred ceremony together with their beloved friends and family.

2. It signifies the start of your marriage.
Your wedding ceremony is where your marriage officially starts. It’s where it breathes life, it’s where it takes shape. Your ceremony is where you and your partner declare your chosen promises, vows, and aspirations together. To put it simply, this is where you celebrate your commitment together.

3. It gives you a sense of ownership.
Having a wedding ceremony that you can call your own gives you a feeling of having a prized possession. The ceremony allows you to celebrate your commitment and love in front of the people you hold dear. Take your wedding ceremony as something that is worth celebrating and investing in.

4. It gives the blessing of marriage.
The most important part of your wedding ceremony is the homily or the message from the one officiating your wedding. It will bless not only your marriage but also provide guidance in whatever trials that may come along your new journey together.

5. It is what will keep you down memory lane.
If there would be one thing that you will remember about your wedding, it would be the ceremony itself. In a few years’ time, you may have already forgotten what your reception was, but you will never forget the moment you walked down the aisle and the vows you have promised to each other that day.

WEDDING CEREMONY – LOW COST PLAN Like 600 USD =862,602.Frw

Weddings are more than just extravagant celebrations; they are profound and meaningful ceremonies that mark the beginning of a lifelong journey shared by two individuals deeply in love. In this comprehensive exploration, we delve into the multifaceted reasons why weddings hold such significance in cultures around the world. From the celebration of love and commitment to the preservation of tradition and the forging of unity, weddings serve as powerful symbols of hope, joy, and enduring bonds.

1. Set a Clear Budget

Decide your total maximum budget and stick to it. Write down everything you’ll need, and prioritize the most important things.

 LOW-COST WEDDING IDEAS:

 2. Venue

Use a home, garden, church, or community center for free or very low cost.

Some people marry at the courthouse for a small fee.

 3. Clothes

Wear simple, clean, or traditional clothes you already own or borrow.

Buy second-hand wedding clothes (thrift stores, online, local rentals).

 A white dress or shirt + a flower crown = wedding-ready look.

4. Decorations

DIY (Do It Yourself): Use flowers, candles, paper crafts.

Pick wildflowers, reuse decorations from others.

5. Food & Cake

Serve simple food: snacks, drinks, or a homemade meal.

Ask family or friends to help with cooking.

Bake or buy a small cake.

 6. Music

Use a phone playlist or speaker (no DJ needed) or use few money for instrumentals.

Invite a friend who can play guitar or singer for free as supporting you.

7. Photography

Ask a friend with a good phone or camera to take photos.Or set up a phone on a stand and take your own pictures/videos.

8. Guests

Keep the guest list small (10–100 peoples).Invite only close friends and family.

 EXAMPLE: WEDDING LIKE –$600, or 862,602.Frw

No	Item	Estimated Cost	Proposal 2
1	Venue (home/garden)	100000	Free Place
2	Clothes (borrowed)	50000	50000
3	Decorations (DIY)	150000	100000
4	Food & Cake (homemade)	300000	300000
5	Music (phone) Radios	50000	Rent friends
6	Photos (friend helps)	50000	Use smartPhone
7	Transport	100000	50000
8	Invitations (SMS)	20000	10000 +Online inv
9	Others	42000	20000
	Total	862000	530.000FRW

Example of attempt cost for Budget wedding ceremony 2025

A beautiful wedding is not about how much you spend. It’s about love, respect, and starting life together with joy. weddings are important not only for the celebration of love and commitment but also for the preservation of tradition, the strengthening of family bonds, and the fostering of community and unity. They serve as powerful symbols of hope, joy, and enduring bonds, bringing people together in a shared celebration of life and love. Whether simple or elaborate, traditional or modern, weddings hold deep significance in cultures around the world, serving as timeless reminders of the beauty and resilience of the human spirit. As we celebrate weddings, let us cherish the love that binds us, honor the traditions that enrich our lives, and embrace the diverse tapestry of human experience.

    

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